Bisexual at Home, Lesbian Overseas

Author: , August 5th, 2016

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As my plane touched down in Budapest and taxied into the gate, I stood up to stretch my legs and opened Tinder on my iPhone. My eyes were burning from lack of sleep and Kindle fatigue. I had bags to wrangle. But this was important. I opened the settings and changed my search criteria from “women and men” to just “women.”

As I waited for my overstuffed backpack to shoot out of the luggage turnstile, I hopped on the spotty WiFi to assess my options. I swiped right on a Raquel Welch look-alike and on a resident physician whose mischievous grin intrigued me.

At home in California’s Bay Area, I date women and men. However, when I travel overseas, I stick to women. I love men, but they can be a liability — one I’m not willing to risk when I’m on my own in a foreign place where I don’t know the subtle cultural cues, where I can’t call my best friend to come pick me up if things go awry.

I know men who are incredibly trustworthy, with whom I feel safe and that my boundaries are respected. But unfortunately, there a lot of men who don’t have that same reverence for a woman’s “no.” This can happen with female partners, too. But with men, I have had my boundaries crossed or feared violence on many more occasions.

By Breena Kerr – Full Story at The Washington Post

Erasure’s Andy Bell to Headline Razzle Dazzle Dallas

Author: , April 3rd, 2014

Razzle Dazzle Dallas LogoAndy Bell will headline the ninth annual Metroball fundraiser that benefits the Greg Dollgener Memorial AIDS Fund, organizers announced.

The June 6 event at Station 4 is the Friday party of Razzle Dazzle Dallas, the city’s event for National Gay Pride Month.

Bell who’s openly gay, recently sat down to chat with Dallas Voice about the group’s holiday CD, Snow Globe.

See the Full Story at The Dallas Voice

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