SUMMER READS: TRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD – Hollywood: Sometimes The Reality Is Better Than the Dream

Author: , June 30th, 2017

HollywoodWe all need a good “Hollywood Fix” once in a while and a new book came out recently that will give you one of the best ones that you have had in a long time. The famous Hollywood agent to the Stars, Budd Burton Moss has recently authored his book, HOLLYWOOD:  ‘Sometimes The Reality Is Better Than the Dream’.

With over 400 pages of fascinating memories he tells about his adventures and business dealings with famous entertainers, directors, producers and everyone else in the movie business that he has been involved with in his many years in Hollywood. Names like Rita Hayworth, Jack Valenti, Hal Prince, Jon Cypher, John James, Tommy Cruise, Laura Pels, the beautiful Dina Merrill, Tom Bosley, John Gavin, Constance Towers, Carolyn Jones, Bob Barker, Sidney Poitier are just a few of the many people that he includes in this marvelous book.  The book also has over 50 priceless photographs.

Praise about his book comes from Larry King, who wrote the Forward to the book.  Other praises are from Rona Barrett, former Hollywood newspaper columnists and TV host, Mike Medavoy, producer, seven-time Oscar winner, Robert Wagner, actor and Sherry Lansing, former President of 20th Century Fox Studios and former chairman of Paramount Pictures and of course from us as well!

Budd Burton MossThis is a REAL story about the GOLDEN AGE of Hollywood. He writes about the good and the bad experiences that he has had and when one goes thru life, we all have our ‘highs’ and ‘lows’.  He tells about all of them. His escapades with Rita Hayworth who was his favorite client  are extremely interesting to read.  He relates the times he had with her all over the world and  in South America and the trials and tribulations of such adventures with her. She was NOT an easy person to travel with.

Do you think that you would like to be a Hollywood agent ?  Think again as it is a 24 hour, 7 days a week  career working with prima donnas.  The author was able to handle all of this and make loyal life long friends along the way.

Budd Burton Moss has certainly had an extremely wonderful life in his roll as a Hollywood agent and he continues to  work every day. He has done it all,  and much more will come for him. He has made remarkable friends in Hollywood but the most important thing that we respect him for is his personal life with his wife, Carolyn for over 46 years! And what  a true love story that is.  Now in his 80’s Budd Burton Moss is going as strong as ever.

Reading this book is very riveting and you can’t put it down until the last page and then you will want more!. This is one of the ESSENTIAL books for anyone really into the movies and life in Hollywood.  You can purchase this book either at your local bookstore or thru  We think that it would be a great idea if someone in Hollywood would make a movie from his book! (Portrait of Budd Burton Moss by Mara Magliarditi)

Don and RayAlways remember to have fun when traveling, meet new people and talk to everyone!

TRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD is written by Donald Pile and Ray Williams, Award-winning, Celebrity travel columnists who write for gay publications from coast to coast (And now legally married).

Proud members of the IGLTA. You can email them at and visit their website at

TRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD: Unbuttoned – Gay Life in the Santa Fe Arts Scene

Author: , March 18th, 2017

UnbuttonedSometimes when we visit a town we wish that we had read more about it before going. Such is the case with Santa Fe, New Mexico where we have visited many times over the past 30 years. We visit all the really great places and shrines and churches and really appreciate the architecture, etc.

When we visited last year we ran across a new published book about Gay Life in the Santa Fe Arts Scene written by Walter Cooper. It is a great history of Gay Life in Santa Fe particular in the art scene.
Walter was born in New York, got his B.A. in American Studies from Hobart College and worked in New York City and Tokyo for 10 years as a copywriter. but yearned for more out of life. He then moved to Santa Fe, New Mexico in the early 1970’s and as they say, the rest is history and what a rich life he has had in Santa Fe.

Like many of us, he enjoys “people” in all forms, shapes and sizes. Walter’s artwork has been exhibited in major galleries and private collections. His work in graphic design includes opera posters, book and record album covers, wool rug, greeting cards and postage stamps. He is the author of two previously published books.

Santa Fe has always been a haven for artists and writers, poets and sculptors and the rest of the arts including their famous Santa Fe Opera which has become a world renown Opera. It is located just to the north of Santa Fe in the high mountains and draws thousands of visitors each year. Santa Fe has it’s mountains and scenery and chapels and architecture but it is PEOPLE that makes a community and Santa Fe has had a very colorful history of people from all walks of life.” Why be like everyone else” would be a good description of  the people in Santa Fe ?

Walter Cooper’s book of more than 250 pages, including over 80 photographs, tells about most all of the people that he has met in his many years living in Santa Fe. And what colorful characters he has met and partied with ! From Grande Dames to artists, writers, entertainers, and just people who live there. Often it is those people who are most interesting to be with.

He tells his readers about his social life as well as his personal life with the different lovers that he has had. He tells readers about the dozens and dozens over extremely interesting characters that has met and become friends with.  Readers will really get involved with his stories and wish that they were there enjoying the life as he has lived and continues to live.  You will be introduced to so many VERY interesting people. This is certainly a book that when you start reading, you cannot put down until the ending.

The one thing that readers need to take home with them from reading his book is that one can have the life that he has had anywhere that they live. One just has to enjoy people and get involved with people on different levels of life. Being ‘different’ is a good thing !

Walter Cooper has now lived in Santa Fe and he and his partner of many years, Doug live in the countryside near Santa Fe. Many book stores sell his books or you can purchase them from After reading his book all we can say is that he has had a life, well lived. Readers should take heed and live their lives more fully. Walter certainly as had a life well lived. Next time you are going somewhere to visit, try learning about the ‘people’ before going there.

And when going to Santa Fe the best place to stay is El Farolito Bed & Breakfast Inn. They are located at 514 Galisteo which is just a few short blocks from the Plaza. Their website is: and their phone is: 505.988.1631 or 888.634.8762. Owners Wayne Mainus and Walt Wyass have owned the Inn for nearly 20 years and they have guests that keep coming back all the time simply because they are the BEST ! If they are booked up, which they often are, they also have another B and B, The Four Kachinas Inn, just a few blocks away,

And on top of everything else about Santa Fe, they have a very handsome and WONDERFUL Mayor, Javier Gonzales. Hopefully he will be the Governor one of these days.

Don and RayAlways remember to have fun when traveling, meet new people and talk to everyone!

TRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD is written by Donald Pile and Ray Williams, Award-winning, Celebrity travel columnists who write for gay publications from coast to coast (And now legally married).

Proud members of the IGLTA. You can email them at and visit their website at

Santa Fe Gay Travel Resources

Book Review: Gaysia

Author: , September 12th, 2014

GaysiaThrowing a dart at a board. That’s one way to decide where you’ll go on vacation. You could also call a travel agent, hop in a car, or head to the backyard. No matter what you do with those precious weeks of vacay, you’ll definitely use them. So how about a whirlwind tour of the Far East and its bedrooms, hotels and furtive parks? Sounds good? Well, before you book that trip, you might want to read Gaysia by Benjamin Law first.

It stands to reason: if most of the planet’s population lives in Asia, then the Far East is the gayest place in the world. Benjamin Law suspected that and, as an ethnically Asian gay Australian, he was geographically in a good location to prove it. He decided he’d find his “fellow Gaysians: the Homolaysians, Bi-Mese, Laosbians and Shangdykes.” But first, he’d go to Bali.

There, he found a “relaxing island getaway” that happily embraced gay men; where clothing was optional, even discouraged, at many resorts; and “moneyboys” were willing to do anything for a fee. Sessions of “jiggy-jiggy,” says Law, were a “creative” way out of poverty for (sometimes straight) boys and young men but since the rate of condom use was low, the rate of HIV was high.

By Terri Schlichenmeyer – Full Story at LGBT Weekly | Asia Gay Travel Resources

A Passage to India

Author: , June 3rd, 2014

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Sydney-based journalist Benjamin Law spent nearly a year skipping between seven Asian countries, sitting backstage with Bangkok ladyboys prepping themselves for beauty pageants, chatting with Tokyo’s famed drag queens, marching in the Mumbai heat with fierce queer rights activists, listening to the testimonies of Melaka preachers who claimed they could heal homosexuality and hanging out with Bali’s ‘moneyboys’ and the old foreign men who hire them.

After his travels, Law wrote Gaysia: Adventures in the Queer East, a wild ride exploring the sociological ins and outs of Indonesia, Thailand, China, Japan, Malaysia, Myanmar and India, told with wit, great experience and love for this complicated part of the world. Here we excerpt three sections of Law’s chapter on traveling through India, a country we also examined when we sat down with Crown Prince Manvendra, the world’s only out gay royal, last month.

India, in which we visit the latest country in the world to have decriminalized homosexuality, travel 30 hours in a train and march in a pride parade involving a lesbian group with a staggering acronym. Intensity of food poisoning while researching this story (on a scale of one to 10): eight.

Our destination was near Haridwar, one of India’s holy cities and a well-known site of pilgrimage. On the map, though, our target was a tiny cluster on the side of the road, a cameo appearance from humanity: it would be all too easy to miss. I zipped up and scurried into the cab’s backseat. The driver shook his head and reclined the passenger seat to show me I could lie completely flat.

By Benjamin Law – Full Story at Frontiers LA | India Gay Travel Resources


Author: , March 9th, 2011
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Wade Rouse

Most all of the time when you travel you always have to wait, whether in the airport while waiting for a plane to arrive or take off, or just waiting anywhere. That is where a great book comes in handy to pass the time. Or you could turn off your TV and relax and read a good book. We just finished reading a VERY funny and hilarious book by Wade Rouse, entitled IT’S ALL RELATIVE. It is sub-titled, Two Families, Two Dogs, 34 Holidays, and 50 Boxes of Wine and it is a memoir. The author has written three, critically-acclaimed memoirs, including AMERICA’;S BOY (Dutton/2006), CONFESSIONS OF A PREP SCHOOL MOMMY HANDLER (Harmony/2007), and his best selling. AT LEAST IN THE CITY SOMEONE WOULD HEAR ME SCREAM: Misadventures in Search of the Simple Life (Harmony/2009).

It's All Relative - Wade RouseSince It’s All Relative is a memoir, we especially like to read things like this. Wade grew up in the hill-billy Ozarks in south Missouri where as he says,

Santa came to our house every few years and then other years he would simply go missing! Later he asked his father about it and his father replied that Santa was pre-occupied as Nixon needs a little extra help.” One of his mom’s favorite things to do especially on Mother’s Day was to get out the old photo albums and pore through them, inventing happier tales than the ones depicted in the actual pictures. The one in which the author was crying on Christmas because he had unwrapped a football instead of a Easy -Bake!

He tells about the family gatherings which are hilarious. It is hard to believe that some gays actually had to grow up in an atmosphere like that however the author “rose about it all” and now lives a wonderful life. So there is hope for all of the thousands of gays out there who think that they are stuck with how they were brought up.

He tells the good and the bad in his life from helping in the soup kitchens to being an ass other times which we can all relate to . As he says, “Sarcasm, like a good sun tan, can cover any defect. His life at work, at play and with his original family and now with his new family with Gary and the dogs are very touching and real.

He talks about parties, going to the beach, having friends and not having friends and losing friends. He tells us about the many mistakes that he has made and the many wonderful moments that he has had as well. You will learn what the difference is between Swedish Day and Sweetness Day which was one of our very favorite chapters in the book.

And you will learn how to live with your original family even if most are Republicans and are not all that keen on gay marriage.

This is only Wade’s fourth book and he already has a huge following of readers including us. It’s All Relative is published by Harmony Books and can be ordered thru You can also purchase one directly from the author as he makes his way across the country at signing parties at major book stores. Check out his website at: We can’t wait for his next book to come out. This is one book that will keep in stitches page after page. It is just so funny!

Wade and his spouse Gary live on the coast of Michigan with their two dogs, Marge and Mabel. They have been a couple for many years.

Always remember to have fun when traveling, meet new people and talk to everyone!
TRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD is written by Donald Pile and Ray Williams, Award-winning, Celebrity travel columnists who write for gay publications from coast to coast (And now legally married). Proud members of the IGLTA. You can email them at and visit their website at

Don & ray - Gay TravelersAlways remember to have fun when traveling, meet new people and talk to everyone!

TRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD is written by Donald Pile and Ray Williams, Award-winning, Celebrity travel columnists who write for gay publications from coast to coast (And now legally married). Proud members of the IGLTA. You can email them at and visit their website at