TRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD: Time for Innkeepers to Talk About Their Guests

Author: , August 14th, 2014
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HouseIn the past 14 years we have stayed at over 65 Bed and Breakfast Inns from coast to coast. All but 5 of them have been wonderful. Most people stay at a Bed and Breakfast to be with other people. Otherwise, they would merely stay at a hotel or motel, close their doors and do their own thing. Most all of the other guests that we have encountered in our travels have been extremely interesting and fun to be with. As in any accommodations whether it be a hotel or motel or Bed and Breakfasts from time to time they have to deal with that 5% of guests who really should not be staying in a B and B.

We contacted several of the B and B’s where we have stayed in the last 14 years to find out about those 5% of their guests and what those guests did that was wrong and perhaps we can all learn to be a better guest by reading their comments below.


THE DRUNKS

New Years Eve 2011, I was awakened at 3:10 a.m. on my emergency cell phone by a guest asking me to come quickly as water was pouring into their room from overhead. The temperature outside was a chilly -19 degrees and I immediately ran upstairs to the suite above. Opening the suite’s bathroom door I found the husband bobbing drunk and asleep in the bathtub with water pouring out into the hallway. I grabbed him by his hair and told him to get out. The water got into the fire alarm in the suite below, setting it off and waking all guests in the Inn. It took us hours to sop up the mess. All my guests laughed at breakfast when I told them the story. The wife of the bobbing husband came down at 7 a.m. crying and apologizing. Their credit card was charged over $2,000 for the damages and refunds we had to pay out to other guests. I heard later that she kicked her drunken husband out of their home and he was forced to go live with his mother!

Another chimes in:

Not that it’s really terrible, but some who come to a B&B, stay out all night, get drunk, sleep all day, never socialize with other guests or the innkeepers – why don’t they just stay in a hotel where they can fall out of bed into the next best bar?

We have had couples who came for a get away, started fighting (very loudly, usually at least one of them drunk), sometimes in the middle of the night disturbing us and other guests. Suggestion: If you are having trouble with your partner, take it somewhere else (but not just in front of the B&B, which is usually in a residential neighborhood!). If you can’t handle your liquor, don’t drink! We have had guests who passed out in front of the house and wound up sleeping on the steps or on the sidewalk, causing passersby to call the cops or an ambulance.


THE FIGHTERS

Some years back I was awakened by a guest about 3:30 a.m. who said I needed to come quickly because the couple next door were fighting loudly. Sure enough when I knocked on their door the girlfriend was screaming crazy at her boyfriend and I could see that she had hit and scratched him all over. I believe she was seriously on drugs, perhaps Meth. Before I knew it, the police showed up because the boyfriend had called them. The police took them away to the County jail. Everyone in the Inn had been awakened and I had to refund everyone for the night. Fortunately for us, we found a large diamond earring that belonged to the boyfriend. He agreed and paid for everyone’s refunds in order to get the diamond earring back. The couple was forced to stay in town for four days to await their court appearance, but NOT with us


THE GLOOMY GUEST

Sullen guests who just refuse to let themselves have a good time – tends to be one spouse who feels forced to be along on a trip the other spouse wanted to do – but their “gloom” can permeate a crowd and can be hard to overcome.


THE SNOOPS

One of the things that drives us most crazy are guests who slink around and feel they have the right to go through all our kitchen cabinets, the housekeeping work room and linen cabinets. Quite frankly some are outright thieves. When we catch them and ask them politely if we can help them, they tend to get defensive – and we know we have caught them red handed. We have even had women pocketing items in the gift shop without paying for them – and then driving off in their Lexus SUV.


THE SPECIAL DIET WANNABES

We do try to accommodate most special dietary needs: diabetics, allergies, vegetarian, vegan, etc, as long as we can plan for them ahead of time. But it really gets our goat when other guests hop on that boat at the last minute and also want to be “special” and demand some special preparation at the last minute, especially when we know that the “need” is invented and not real.
Sometimes the sheer numbers of DIFFERENT special dietary demands can also get overwhelming and complicated – we have had guests who submit long lists of what the can’t eat – so much so that we can’t figure out what they CAN eat – and then they go out to dinner at a restaurant and gobble down everything on the menu without a care in the world about their necessary dietary demands.


THEY DON’T GET NO RESPECT

We treat all of our guests with respect in our home. A very few people just cannot seem to understand that they also owe us and other guests similar respect. Fortunately we have only had to “evict” two persons who could just not get that message straight in their empty heads.


THE SMOKING REBELS

State law prohibits smoking in facilities such as ours. Some inconsiderate guests try to sneak smoking in their rooms – no it does not work to smoke in the bathrooms with the fan on. We and the next guests can still smell the smoke – so lots of extra cleaning deodorizing needed! We have recently installed new smoke detectors that actually do detect cigarette smoke (cigars too of course) and they will absolutely go off all over the building in the middle of the night when those “sneak a smoke” cheats light up – not good.

Those are the big ones – and fortunately not many people choose to be jerks – but the ones who do are the ugly underbelly of this business.


THE SEXUAL REBELS

It’s in the house rules, not to bring outside guests home with you, but that special cute person in the bar who wants to come “home” with you is just so irresistible. And if you’ve had enough to drink your judgment is always clouded, and they all look cute. Don’t do it!

Guests using oily lubes and getting it on the sheets – you could put a towel underneath, or at least tell the innkeeper you had accidentally got some on the sheet, so they can get it out before putting it in the dryer and setting the stain.
Guests having sex in the hot tub (despite there being a sign posted requesting them to refrain). We have had to clean out the hot tub a few times!

One of the worst that ever happened was when a minister and his wife was staying with us. They stayed for just one night and the next morning they came down for breakfast and were very friendly and polite with the other guests. They checked out and when the housekeeper entered their room she came rushing down to get us to check the room with her. There was brown globs of “stuff” all over the sheets and pillow cases. Upon examining closer, it did have a nice odor to it. Hmmm! We checked the waste basket and yep, there were about a half dozen empty plastic tubs of chocolate pudding in there. well, we all know what the chocolate pudding in bed was used for. There was a note on the nightstand that read, “Dear friend, Sorry for the mess in the bed. if there is any additional charge for clean up, put it on our credit card. And we did.


We wish to thank the Innkeepers who were nice enough to assist us in this travel column. They have all said that 95% of their guests are wonderful and that they love owning their B and B’s. Next time you are staying at a B and B, try to be in the 95% group and NOT in the 5% group!

Always remember to have fun when traveling, meet new people and talk to everyone!

Donald and RayTRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD is written by Donald Pile and Ray Williams, Award-winning, Celebrity travel columnists who write for gay publications from coast to coast (And now legally married). Proud members of the IGLTA. You can email them at gaytravelers@aol.com and visit their website at http://gaytravelersataol.blogspot.com/

Add Your Accommodations to the Purple Roofs Travel Directory, Free!

Author: , March 5th, 2014

Purple Roofs Home PageWe started the Purple Roofs Gay & Lesbian Travel Directory in in 1998, and we’re now on Version 5 of the popular gay travel site.

Purple Roofs is one of the oldest and most successful directories of gay friendly accommodations on the web. Each month, more than fifty thousand travelers turn to our site for accommodations, travel agents and tour operators, and travel news – and we currently list more than 5,000 accommodations in 77 countries/regions around the world.

If you have a bed and breakfast, hotel, inn, guesthouse, vacation rental, motel, or other short-term vacation accommodations, and you welcome gay and lesbian travelers, we’d love to have you – and even better, it’s free – there’s never a charge for our extensive basic listings.

To give it a try, just go to:

http://www.purpleroofs.com/innkeepersnewform.html

and fill out the form there. We’ll help you get your accommodations in front of thousands of gay and lesbian travelers. If you have any questions, please let us know!

🙂

–Scott & Mark

Add Your Accommodations to the Purple Roofs Travel Directory, Free!

Author: , February 14th, 2014

Purple Roofs Home PageWe started the Purple Roofs Gay & Lesbian Travel Directory in in 1998, and we’re now on Version 5 of the popular gay travel site.

Purple Roofs is one of the oldest and most successful directories of gay friendly accommodations on the web. Each month, more than fifty thousand travelers turn to our site for accommodations, travel agents and tour operators, and travel news – and we currently list more than 5,000 accommodations in 77 countries/regions around the world.

If you have a bed and breakfast, hotel, inn, guesthouse, vacation rental, motel, or other short-term vacation accommodations, and you welcome gay and lesbian travelers, we’d love to have you – and even better, it’s free – there’s never a charge for our extensive basic listings.

To give it a try, just go to:

http://www.purpleroofs.com/innkeepersnewform.html

and fill out the form there. We’ll help you get your accommodations in front of thousands of gay and lesbian travelers. If you have any questions, please let us know!

🙂

–Scott & Mark

Add Your Accommodations to the Purple Roofs Travel Directory, Free!

Author: , November 11th, 2013

Purple Roofs Home PageWe started the Purple Roofs Gay & Lesbian Travel Directory in in 1998, and we’re now on Version 5 of the popular gay travel site.

Purple Roofs is one of the oldest and most successful directories of gay friendly accommodations on the web. Each month, more than fifty thousand travelers turn to our site for accommodations, travel agents and tour operators, and travel news – and we currently list more than 5,000 accommodations in 77 countries/regions around the world.

If you have a bed and breakfast, hotel, inn, guesthouse, vacation rental, motel, or other short-term vacation accommodations, and you welcome gay and lesbian travelers, we’d love to have you – and even better, it’s free – there’s never a charge for our extensive basic listings.

To give it a try, just go to:

http://www.purpleroofs.com/innkeepersnewform.html

and fill out the form there. We’ll help you get your accommodations in front of thousands of gay and lesbian travelers. If you have any questions, please let us know!

🙂

–Scott & Mark

Want to Be An Innkeeper? Purple Roofs Lists Lots of Gay-Friendly Inns

Author: , October 19th, 2013

Did you know that the Purple Roofs gay travel directory also lists lots of currently LGBT owned and friendly accommodations for sale? We list inns, B&B’s, hotels, vacation rentals, investment opportunities, and other short-term accommodation properties worldwide.

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Add Your Accommodations to the Purple Roofs Travel Directory, Free!

Author: , September 2nd, 2013

Purple Roofs Home PageWe started the Purple Roofs Gay & Lesbian Travel Directory in in 1998, and we’re now on Version 5 of the popular gay travel site.

Purple Roofs is one of the oldest and most successful directories of gay friendly accommodations on the web. Each month, more than fifty thousand travelers turn to our site for accommodations, travel agents and tour operators, and travel news – and we currently list more than 5,000 accommodations in 77 countries/regions around the world.

If you have a bed and breakfast, hotel, inn, guesthouse, vacation rental, motel, or other short-term vacation accommodations, and you welcome gay and lesbian travelers, we’d love to have you – and even better, it’s free – there’s never a charge for our extensive basic listings.

To give it a try, just go to:

http://www.purpleroofs.com/innkeepersnewform.html

and fill out the form there. We’ll help you get your accommodations in front of thousands of gay and lesbian travelers. If you have any questions, please let us know!

🙂

–Scott & Mark

Add Your Accommodations to the Purple Roofs Travel Directory, Free!

Author: , August 19th, 2013

Purple Roofs Home PageWe started the Purple Roofs Gay & Lesbian Travel Directory in in 1998, and we’re now on Version 5 of the popular gay travel site.

Purple Roofs is one of the oldest and most successful directories of gay friendly accommodations on the web. Each month, more than fifty thousand travelers turn to our site for accommodations, travel agents and tour operators, and travel news – and we currently list more than 5,000 accommodations in 77 countries/regions around the world.

If you have a bed and breakfast, hotel, inn, guesthouse, vacation rental, motel, or other short-term vacation accommodations, and you welcome gay and lesbian travelers, we’d love to have you – and even better, it’s free – there’s never a charge for our extensive basic listings.

To give it a try, just go to:

http://www.purpleroofs.com/innkeepersnewform.html

and fill out the form there. We’ll help you get your accommodations in front of thousands of gay and lesbian travelers. If you have any questions, please let us know!

🙂

–Scott & Mark

Purple Roofs Lists More Than 5,000 Gay Friendly Accommodations Worldwide

Author: , July 22nd, 2013

Listing on Purple RoofsIf you just read the Purple Roofs gay travel blog, you may not realize that we’re actually a travel directory too. We started the directory 15 years ago, and it has grown into one of the largest directories of LGBT owned and friendly accommodations on the web.

We’re different from other directories, in that we focus on the little guys. Sure, you’ll find a smattering of Marriotts and Hyatts on the site, but the vast majority of our listings are mom and mom or pop and pop businesses. More than a third of these are LGBT owned, and the rest are gay friendly, giving you places to stay that will welcome you and your partner in many places (both popular and out-of-the-way) around the world.

To search the directory, just go to our home page, and use either the map links there or the searches just below the maps.

Find your dream vacation, and have fun!

Add Your Accommodations to the Purple Roofs Travel Directory, Free!

Author: , July 20th, 2013

Purple Roofs Home PageWe started the Purple Roofs Gay & Lesbian Travel Directory in in 1998, and we’re now on Version 5 of the popular gay travel site.

Purple Roofs is one of the oldest and most successful directories of gay friendly accommodations on the web. Each month, more than fifty thousand travelers turn to our site for accommodations, travel agents and tour operators, and travel news – and we currently list more than 5,000 accommodations in 77 countries/regions around the world.

If you have a bed and breakfast, hotel, inn, guesthouse, vacation rental, motel, or other short-term vacation accommodations, and you welcome gay and lesbian travelers, we’d love to have you – and even better, it’s free – there’s never a charge for our extensive basic listings.

To give it a try, just go to:

http://www.purpleroofs.com/innkeepersnewform.html

and fill out the form there. We’ll help you get your accommodations in front of thousands of gay and lesbian travelers. If you have any questions, please let us know!

🙂

–Scott & Mark

Purple Roofs Lists More Than 5,000 Gay Friendly Accommodations Worldwide

Author: , July 11th, 2013

Listing on Purple RoofsIf you just read the Purple Roofs gay travel blog, you may not realize that we’re actually a travel directory too. We started the directory 15 years ago, and it has grown into one of the largest directories of LGBT owned and friendly accommodations on the web.

We’re different from other directories, in that we focus on the little guys. Sure, you’ll find a smattering of Marriotts and Hyatts on the site, but the vast majority of our listings are mom and mom or pop and pop businesses. More than a third of these are LGBT owned, and the rest are gay friendly, giving you places to stay that will welcome you and your partner in many places (both popular and out-of-the-way) around the world.

To search the directory, just go to our home page, and use either the map links there or the searches just below the maps.

Find your dream vacation, and have fun!