TRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD: Why We Enjoy Gay Owned and Gay Friendly B&B’s

Published Date Author: , September 13th, 2012
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First of all, we want to clarify the term, “gay friendly” which is a term that we do not appreciate at all, but sometimes that term just has to be used. It’s kind of like saying “pet friendly” or “child friendly”. After all, EVERYPLACE should be friendly to everyone! Whether they are Jewish, African-American, Irish, Italian or gay or lesbian, all doors should be open to everyone.

Inn of the Turquoise Bear - Santa FeWe have stayed at over 100 Bed and Breakfast and Inns in the country over the past several years and except for some that were extremely dirty and very unprofessionally kept up, they have all be marvelous experiences. We have meet a lot of both gay and straight people that we have become great friends with over the years.

Our very favorite places to stay are the straight-friendly but gay owned B and B’s and Inns. Most people that stay in B&B’s are “people” people and appreciate socializing with other guests. We have learned so much from talking with people that we stay with. We have kept in touch with dozens of them and have even stayed in their homes when we travel to their cities. has always been our number one source for finding a place to stay when we travel. Their website is extremely professional and it tells you exactly who owns the accommodation and what types of people you can expect to find there.

There can be such a great harmony between gays and straights conversing over happy hour at the B and B and during morning breakfast. Ideas flourish on every topic to what is happening in that particular city to things going on around the country.

One time during happy hour at a B and B where we were staying, there happened to be more gays and lesbian than straight people. Everyone seemed to be having a good time, or at least we thought. The next morning the woman came down to breakfast without her husband.

After being questioned as to his whereabouts she had to explain to everybody that her husband didn’t know that the B and B was gay owned or that there would be gay people staying there. He almost left in the middle of the night for them to stay some place else.

Later he did come down and had breakfast by himself and talked to a few of us.

Guess what? That evening for happy hour, he and his wife were the first people to come down and the last person to leave! We won them over! A point for our side! By the time their stay was over they wanted several of us gay couples to come visit them if we were ever in their city.

Upon returning to their home city, they even got in touch with some of the gays living in their neighborhood and began a relationship with them.

Most all people staying in Bed and Breakfasts and Inns WANT to talk to other guests. Otherwise they would have stayed at a hotel or motel and just sit in their rooms and watch television. Most all B and B owners are extremely professional and friendly.

Like in any business you will always find a few who should be in another business however they are few and far between. Most all owners want their guests to enjoy themselves and have a grand time when they are there. When a problem arises, a good owner always knows how to take care of the problem and guests fully understand that problems do arise from time to time.

We have had water go out for a few hours, electricity go out, however the owners did everything that they could do promptly, and with a smile. A smile does go a long way in the hospitality business.

The two things that we most appreciate about staying in a B and B are conversing with the other guests and the morning breakfast. Owners are extremely proud of their breakfasts as well they should. Most go way overboard when preparing a scrumptious meal and offer a large variety of entrees.

NEVER be shy about who you are. Be gay and be proud ! Most all straight owners could care less. We have had straight owners explain to us how to get to the gay bars, churches, restaurants, etc. Things ARE changing… not fast enough but they ARE changing year by year and even month by month.

No longer do we have to go to seedy gays in the wrong part of a city. We are welcomed most everywhere now as it should be. Thanks for purpleroofs, it is making it more welcoming and pleasant for everyone.

Always remember to have fun when traveling, meet new people and talk to everyone!

Donald and RayTRAVELING IN OUR FABULOUS GAY WORLD is written by Donald Pile and Ray Williams, Award-winning, Celebrity travel columnists who write for gay publications from coast to coast (And now legally married). Proud members of the IGLTA. You can email them at and visit their website at

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Fred said on September 18, 2012, 7:56 am:

If the term “gay friendly” bothers you why not come up with a new and more appropriate term? Or why use the term at all? If a property is “gay unfriendly” then it should not even be listed. Otherwise we can assume that we are welcome. Purple Roofs does not have a provision for comments on properties they list which would be comforting when doing a search.

Shane Burry - Gravatar Shane Burry said on September 18, 2012, 9:01 am:

Hello Donald & Ray,
We just wanted to say thank you for your contributions in pulling your great country a little futher into the “Gay Future” as we have been doing here in Canada. We wish you luck on ALL your gay marrage issues across the states. If you find yourself in our neck of the woods in the near future we would love to host you here at our B&B. Keep up the amazing writing boys….Warm wishes from Canada.
Shane & Alan
Serenity Ranch Bed & breakfast.
Jerseyville, Ontario.

Matt Smith - Gravatar Matt Smith said on September 21, 2012, 4:38 pm:

Great story about the couple at happy hour!

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